Update: August 2017

I just wanted to write a blog post to formally apologise for the lack of content lately. Sometimes life gets in the way of these sort of things and while I love it very much, sometimes it has to go on the back burner for a short time while I get my affairs in order. But I did want to write just to let you all know what I’ve been up to!

So since my last blog post, I have officially completed all my units within my bachelor degree and I will be graduating in November! University has been a four-year journey for me and I honestly couldn’t be prouder of myself. I really put myself out there in terms of making new friends and really challenging myself. University really helped me step outside of my comfort zone and master time management and organisational skills! At the end of the day, my degree is something that I now have and nobody can take that away from me! It’s all mine!

The biggest challenge I am currently facing after acquiring said degree, is finding a job. Don’t get me wrong I have a job and I love it dearly, however I am looking to progress in my chosen industry and that can only be achieved by continuing to push for a more professional role. A role that my degree has prepared me for. While there seems to be a lot of rejection in this initial stage of applying, I’m trying to just reassure myself there’s something out there and it’s all good experience. I am applying to jobs left right and centre and trying my best, so fingers crossed for that! 

I am making some very important lifestyle changes such as going to the gym more and changing the kind of food I eat. I’ve been experimenting with ‘vegetarianism’ for health reasons. I am currently very immersed in Game of Thrones (who isn’t), seriously one of the best season so far! Also being so busy with work, I’m trying to spend as much time with my family as I can. All of us work, so it’s very rare for all of us to have time together in the same room! I’m also trying to be as spontaneous as possible, indulging in shopping, weekend weekends away and trying nice restaurants! 

I think what I am beginning to learn as of late is, life is precious and life is short. We need to start living every day like it’s the last and to the fullest. Tell you friends and family you love them, eat that burger, post that selfie, DO ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING because tomorrow isn’t promised/guaranteed.

 

An Effort To Be Happier!

The key to being happier starts by being good to yourself. Sounds pretty self-evident right? But too often we skip this very crucial step. I myself skip it many a time! I often try to make myself happy by chasing ever-higher goals or holding myself to ever-greater standards of perfection (as seen on Instagram lol).

I go about my life day to day and I noticed that there was once crucial thing missing … and it was indeed happiness. I have been so caught up in my working schedule and other petty things like housework and catching up on Netflix TV shows that I totally forgot to be happy. I was in zombie mode that’s for sure, I was sad, and just content really … I needed a push to get me back on track to happiness.

I’ve read that the happiest people go out of their way to treat themselves right and they do something nice for themselves each day. They set appropriate boundaries and take care of themselves by saying no to things when they need to. This is something I have been trying to do lately and it has really turned things around for me. I indulge in a nice bath and glass of wine once a week now as nice way to unwind after a stressful shift at work. On my days off, I try to something fun and spontaneous as a way to forget about whatever may be stressing me out at the current moment in time. I buy myself nice things as a reward for my hard work. I continue to design and study marketing to help get me closer to my dream of having a clothing line. Keeping this commitment will motivate me to take better care of myself and go after my dreams. It’s worth a shot anyway right?

I challenge everyone this coming month to do something for yourself each day big or small to remind you on a daily basis to treat yourself with the loving kindness you deserve! Don’t get too caught up in the day to day routine! Take time to stop and breathe, prioritise your health and listen to yourself. Be spontaneous! Go to the beach. Go have a nice coffee. Have some retail therapy. Get creative!

 

Why I Want To Build A Unique Brand Around Myself As An Individual

Personal branding requires me to find a signature image, a unique voice, and a recognisable standard that my readers can grow to recognise. How am I going to do that? Simple. By being MYSELF.

Imagine how hard it would be to build a brand around your “fake” self. Which I believe is what most people do. I would have to act a certain way, appear a certain way, and say certain things, regardless of how I actually feel about it.

Samuel Rose and “samuelrose.blog” is a reflection of who I am. I know what I believe in. I know what I stand for! I know my strengths and my weaknesses. People connect with other people. If I don’t appear to be a real person, or if it just looks like i’m faking it, how likely is it that others will trust me and what I have to say? Even if they do buy into my ‘fake’ persona for one hot minute, the slightest bit of inconsistency could prove catastrophic for my brand.

As I begin to develop my personal brand, I can only hope the right opportunities will start coming my way. While people may ‘doubt’ me or find my online/social media presence ‘annoying’, people will begin to see that I know what i’m taking about, and they’ll invite me to be a part of their stories or news pieces. However, I must not forget how important it is for me to accomplish something for MYSELF. I’m not doing it just for the following, but for myself. I will continue to talk about fashion and the role it plays in my life. I will continue to talk about my passion for travel. I will continue to be open about my shortcomings and weaknesses, making me all the more human.

Building a personal brand is first and foremost developing an understanding of your true self, and then sharing that with the world. For me that is an endless journey.

Being Happily Single Makes You A Stronger Person

“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person–without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.”  – Osho

This quote really interested me today. It’s quite often interesting that those in relationships and those who are ‘in love’ say that they are stronger than ever because of their partner in life. Is this really the case? I know A LOT of single people, and to be quite honest, they are some of the strongest people I know. I couldn’t agree more with this quote. I see so many couples possess each other and become so dependant on each other that it becomes somewhat of an addiction. I also see people in serious relationships develop the inability to figure out what is important for themselves to accomplish, and work towards achieving higher and higher goals.

The biggest reason being single appeals to me so much is that YOU get to move through all the things YOU want to do in life one by one without ever having to stop and ask another person if they are okay with doing it. I love being pushed out of MY comfort zone in an effort to meet new people, often resulting in trying new things that I never thought I would fall in love with. In a sense, being single allows me to shake things up in my life. 

Every day you live holds the potential of starting an entirely new love story, whether with a partner (or even a new TV show) and you never know when or where yours is going to start. I definitely have learnt to rely on myself, and to be my own support system when I need it (which is a lot haha). Because of all the time you are able to spend working on your other relationships such as friends and family, you realise how essential and affirming all of these connections can be, and how much you need to care for them when you’re back into a relationship again.

Like I said, this quote really got me thinking. It’s okay to be single. If anything it helps us love more. We should never neglect/compromise ourselves for any relationship ever.

kris.jpgDISCLAIMER: this is in no way, shape or form a negative letter to people who have been or are currently in loving/stable relationships. This is just my point of view based off my observations and experience. 

 

Shop Till I Drop

We all love a good shopping spree, and with all these mid-year sales happening, it’s the perfect time to go grab a bargain! The funds were looking good so I decided it was time to treat myself, so I grabbed my gal pal Mel and we hit the shops to do some damage!

I headed to Pacific Fair because let’s be honest, it’s the ULTIMATE shopping destination on the Gold Coast am I right? It was a perfect day to shop, the sky was grey and it was quite chilly. Anyway let’s see what I got!

My first stop was Lush Cosmetics! I LOVE this place. People who know me know that take a lot of baths (like A LOT) so I was definitely in need of a new bath bomb to try out. While I was there I also got one of their amazing face mask pots and I also decided to try out a new product called ‘Tea Tree Water’. It’s a spray that is used as a toner for oily skin like mine! I’m hoping it will Keep my skin clear and refreshed!

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Face Mask $13.95 | Tea Tree Water $10.99

My next purchase is one I am pretty excited about. I LOVE shoes, and Aquila was having a sale! I am graduating from university in July and I really wanted some nice shoes to wear to my ceremony and just to have for any other special occasion of formal outing.

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Style: Glenfield $149

I found these STUNNING black leather shoes with a raw brown sole. I liked them because the different coloured sole provides a stunning contrast, making this shoe stand out from the rest. They are also very versatile as they could be paired with any suit or dress chino pant.

The shoe saga continues as I find myself in HYPE DC. I had been eyeing down a pair of woven black leather shoes for a while and I just about had a heart attack when I discovered these were on sale! So I snatched them up for a huge bargain!

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Style: Paolo $139

A casual silhouette with an intricately woven leather upper, low cut collar and slim sole. The striking detail and soft materials of this shoe make it a smart addition to my summer wardrobe.

A successful day of shopping if I do say so myself!

 

Why I (And Most Gay Men) Are Single!

(Little disclaimer to all the gays out there, this doesn’t apply to everyone! This is just what I personally have experienced! )

Let me explain,

Mine and every other gay man’s pool of potential partners is A LOT smaller than those of straight people! A lot of straight people are single too, there’s just A LOT more options for straight people to get with other straight people. So talking numbers, the chances of meeting ‘Mr. Right’ are pretty slim.

What I’ve noticed is a lot of gay men are attracted to attractiveness rather than personality and deeper values. We hate to admit it but it’s true. I also noticed it’s common that gay men are not monogamous. There are a lot of gay men who claim to want monogamy, but they can’t even behave monogamously themselves. Bottom line is, if you want monogamy, you have to be monogamous and if you really love someone, being faithful is effortless.

Too many gay men often seek guys who fit their idea of a perfect partner: perfect job, perfect look, perfect friends. STOP RIGHT THERE! You want a guy who loves you for your individual nature, and who might even clash with some aspects of your life, its natural.

Most gay men are alone because they have narrow standards and try to chase after ideas of a perfect man modelled in today’s popular culture. Let’s be honest, the majority of gay men depicted in television shows or on TV in general are pretty good looking and it’s become the standard that every gay man seeks. Personality is then completely overlooked. 

Personally, the experience of growing up gay in a straight world is hard. I often experienced rejection in many ways by the time I became an adult. Whether it was being excluded at school or being rejected by someone I had a crush on. I  have developed defences against my fear of rejection, and those are what keeping me from opening up to other’s.

Let’s be frank. Gay men are and will continue to be extremely superficial and fussy. Which is why I am single!
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Finding Your Personal Style

I was never really into fashion growing up, but as time went on I started to learn that your style quite easily becomes an identity and a perfect means for you to express yourself. I myself am still trying to find my personal style, for me and it’s mainly trial and error. I will see something I love online, then I will go try it on in store and I either LOVE it or HATE it (or I can’t afford it). That’s just the fun of fashion, finding things that work for you and ruling out those pieces that don’t. Finding and refining your personal style can be a real struggle. We’ve all been there at multiple times, as we look into our closet full of clothes and need something, yet we cannot seem to find something to wear. The STRUGGLE is REAL right?

So why is style important? Let me tell you! The impact of personal style goes far beyond making a good first impression; great style is also about approaching each day with confidence, and the ability to feel FAB in what you are wearing. Believe it or not, the right wardrobe can make a difference in that department. I’m going to share with you a few tips on how to get started in the ‘Personal Style’ department! You’re probably asking yourself “Why take fashion advice from Samuel, he is not a designer/celebrity stylist!” This is all true but I definitely I think I have the base knowledge to help someone kickstart their personal style, TRUST in ME!!!

Firstly, It’s important to get some inspiration!georgia-fowler-fashion-week-style-3.jpgGet out those VOGUE magazines, open up Instagram, look at what your favourite bloggers and celebrities are wearing. Create a vision board of all the things that you like and which you feel you identify with most! This is a great way to create a foundation for your personal style! But make sure you do your research and even try things on in person before making any big purchases, clothing pieces can vary in appearance!

Next, It’s important that clean up and clean out!organize.jpgThe best way to do this is to take a good, long look at your closet and the items of clothing you already own, and by long look I mean a day! Really think about it! You do not want to regret tossing that nice jacket or vintage jeans! Toss what you haven’t worn in the last year , but also think how these old pieces can be incorporated into your new-found personal style. Then you can start fresh and begin to rebuild and refine your wardrobe with a style that truly reflects where you are in your current life/career/situation.

We must shop SMARTER not HARDER!best-street-style-at-paris-fashion-week-springsummer-2014-17.jpgOne of the things I have recently learnt is that you don’t need astronomical amounts of money to have good style. Sure money helps, but it’s not a requirement. I was under the impression that you had to buy all the top designer brands! BUT NO! Experiment with the latest fashion trends the smart way by hunting for deals. I only ever splurge on staple pieces like leather goods, a great bag, a nice coat, etc. If you pay close attention to detail to the quality of clothing pieces you can tell which cheap clothing pieces will last and which pieces will not. Some of the cheapest clothing items I own have lasted years for!

When looking at your personal style, and what you want it be, it’s important to take your lifestyle and goals into consideration. The perfect wardrobe should not only represent your vision and creativity, but also be tailored to your lifestyle. Also, HAVE CONFIDENCE! If you have it, you can make anything look good! Finally, Trust yourself! Trust your gut, because something that makes you feel confident and fabulous will NEVER go out of style.