Shop Till I Drop

We all love a good shopping spree, and with all these mid-year sales happening, it’s the perfect time to go grab a bargain! The funds were looking good so I decided it was time to treat myself, so I grabbed my gal pal Mel and we hit the shops to do some damage!

I headed to Pacific Fair because let’s be honest, it’s the ULTIMATE shopping destination on the Gold Coast am I right? It was a perfect day to shop, the sky was grey and it was quite chilly. Anyway let’s see what I got!

My first stop was Lush Cosmetics! I LOVE this place. People who know me know that take a lot of baths (like A LOT) so I was definitely in need of a new bath bomb to try out. While I was there I also got one of their amazing face mask pots and I also decided to try out a new product called ‘Tea Tree Water’. It’s a spray that is used as a toner for oily skin like mine! I’m hoping it will Keep my skin clear and refreshed!

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Face Mask $13.95 | Tea Tree Water $10.99

My next purchase is one I am pretty excited about. I LOVE shoes, and Aquila was having a sale! I am graduating from university in July and I really wanted some nice shoes to wear to my ceremony and just to have for any other special occasion of formal outing.

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Style: Glenfield $149

I found these STUNNING black leather shoes with a raw brown sole. I liked them because the different coloured sole provides a stunning contrast, making this shoe stand out from the rest. They are also very versatile as they could be paired with any suit or dress chino pant.

The shoe saga continues as I find myself in HYPE DC. I had been eyeing down a pair of woven black leather shoes for a while and I just about had a heart attack when I discovered these were on sale! So I snatched them up for a huge bargain!

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Style: Paolo $139

A casual silhouette with an intricately woven leather upper, low cut collar and slim sole. The striking detail and soft materials of this shoe make it a smart addition to my summer wardrobe.

A successful day of shopping if I do say so myself!

 

Why I (And Most Gay Men) Are Single!

(Little disclaimer to all the gays out there, this doesn’t apply to everyone! This is just what I personally have experienced! )

Let me explain,

Mine and every other gay man’s pool of potential partners is A LOT smaller than those of straight people! A lot of straight people are single too, there’s just A LOT more options for straight people to get with other straight people. So talking numbers, the chances of meeting ‘Mr. Right’ are pretty slim.

What I’ve noticed is a lot of gay men are attracted to attractiveness rather than personality and deeper values. We hate to admit it but it’s true. I also noticed it’s common that gay men are not monogamous. There are a lot of gay men who claim to want monogamy, but they can’t even behave monogamously themselves. Bottom line is, if you want monogamy, you have to be monogamous and if you really love someone, being faithful is effortless.

Too many gay men often seek guys who fit their idea of a perfect partner: perfect job, perfect look, perfect friends. STOP RIGHT THERE! You want a guy who loves you for your individual nature, and who might even clash with some aspects of your life, its natural.

Most gay men are alone because they have narrow standards and try to chase after ideas of a perfect man modelled in today’s popular culture. Let’s be honest, the majority of gay men depicted in television shows or on TV in general are pretty good looking and it’s become the standard that every gay man seeks. Personality is then completely overlooked. 

Personally, the experience of growing up gay in a straight world is hard. I often experienced rejection in many ways by the time I became an adult. Whether it was being excluded at school or being rejected by someone I had a crush on. I  have developed defences against my fear of rejection, and those are what keeping me from opening up to other’s.

Let’s be frank. Gay men are and will continue to be extremely superficial and fussy. Which is why I am single!
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Finding Your Personal Style

I was never really into fashion growing up, but as time went on I started to learn that your style quite easily becomes an identity and a perfect means for you to express yourself. I myself am still trying to find my personal style, for me and it’s mainly trial and error. I will see something I love online, then I will go try it on in store and I either LOVE it or HATE it (or I can’t afford it). That’s just the fun of fashion, finding things that work for you and ruling out those pieces that don’t. Finding and refining your personal style can be a real struggle. We’ve all been there at multiple times, as we look into our closet full of clothes and need something, yet we cannot seem to find something to wear. The STRUGGLE is REAL right?

So why is style important? Let me tell you! The impact of personal style goes far beyond making a good first impression; great style is also about approaching each day with confidence, and the ability to feel FAB in what you are wearing. Believe it or not, the right wardrobe can make a difference in that department. I’m going to share with you a few tips on how to get started in the ‘Personal Style’ department! You’re probably asking yourself “Why take fashion advice from Samuel, he is not a designer/celebrity stylist!” This is all true but I definitely I think I have the base knowledge to help someone kickstart their personal style, TRUST in ME!!!

Firstly, It’s important to get some inspiration!georgia-fowler-fashion-week-style-3.jpgGet out those VOGUE magazines, open up Instagram, look at what your favourite bloggers and celebrities are wearing. Create a vision board of all the things that you like and which you feel you identify with most! This is a great way to create a foundation for your personal style! But make sure you do your research and even try things on in person before making any big purchases, clothing pieces can vary in appearance!

Next, It’s important that clean up and clean out!organize.jpgThe best way to do this is to take a good, long look at your closet and the items of clothing you already own, and by long look I mean a day! Really think about it! You do not want to regret tossing that nice jacket or vintage jeans! Toss what you haven’t worn in the last year , but also think how these old pieces can be incorporated into your new-found personal style. Then you can start fresh and begin to rebuild and refine your wardrobe with a style that truly reflects where you are in your current life/career/situation.

We must shop SMARTER not HARDER!best-street-style-at-paris-fashion-week-springsummer-2014-17.jpgOne of the things I have recently learnt is that you don’t need astronomical amounts of money to have good style. Sure money helps, but it’s not a requirement. I was under the impression that you had to buy all the top designer brands! BUT NO! Experiment with the latest fashion trends the smart way by hunting for deals. I only ever splurge on staple pieces like leather goods, a great bag, a nice coat, etc. If you pay close attention to detail to the quality of clothing pieces you can tell which cheap clothing pieces will last and which pieces will not. Some of the cheapest clothing items I own have lasted years for!

When looking at your personal style, and what you want it be, it’s important to take your lifestyle and goals into consideration. The perfect wardrobe should not only represent your vision and creativity, but also be tailored to your lifestyle. Also, HAVE CONFIDENCE! If you have it, you can make anything look good! Finally, Trust yourself! Trust your gut, because something that makes you feel confident and fabulous will NEVER go out of style.

Male Rompers – New Trend Alert?

Attention gentlemen, big news in the style department. Rompers are … back. However they have gained a few different names like Bro romper (bromper?), Public onesie, Jumpsuit Or, perhaps, just a romper that happens to be worn by a man.

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Whatever you call it, the one-piece clothing item preferred by babies and women at outdoor concerts has officially hit the male fashion market/mainstream. Not only are these pieces stylish, they are also wildly functional.
  • front shirt pocket
  • adjustable waistband
  • zipper fly
  • zippered back pocket
  • deep front pockets
In two days, the Kickstarter ‘RompHim’ has raised more than $136,000, which is 13 times the $10,000 goal they were shooting for. RompHim is a man-sized romper offered in several pastel colours and prints sold for a price of around $120 (seems a bit much right?).
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On social media, you may have noticed an influx of romper-related jokes and assumed the stream of alarming political news had driven people into some sort of mental state. Maybe this is true, BUT it was also people discovering that a) male rompers existed, and b) they are cool now. Thoughts on RompHim? Should this trend be acknowledged, or make it stop?

Dating Apps Have Ruined Dating for Me …

What are your thoughts on dating apps? read mine here ….

I was in bed thinking the other day and I started to think back to what life was like before dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Grindr (a gay hookup app for those of you who don’t know) or even Instagram (yes it’s considered a dating app because you can quite easily slide into anyone’s dm’s).

To be honest with you, I don’t really remember dating without them. It made me realise that our generation has been brought up on these dating apps and we don’t know anything different. Thinking back to when my parents were dating, they didn’t have tinder or smartphones, they met organically. My mum didn’t have to worry about my dad sliding into other girls dm’s or getting on a dating app and swiping to find other girls he might be interested in pursuing. She was only dating him, he was only dating her, and their time spent together eventually blossomed into an beautiful marriage, family etc. much like a fairytale …

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Fast forward to 2017 — I am 21 years old, single and living with my parents. I enjoy my social life and I am 100% satisfied and stable with my current situation. The only thing I seem to be missing is a relationship. I’m not saying that dating apps don’t work, because I know couples who met through them, I’m just saying they have ruined dating for me. Being a young gay boy, I was not able to go to gay clubs and gay bars to meet guys, so the only other viable option was apps where you could connect with other gays. As time went on I realised that it was just full of seedy people who lack your basic social standards and just want to hookup.

Moving on to Tinder, I feel like it has ruined dating as well. With Tinder, we are spoilt with choice and we create imaginary checklists in our heads of the “perfect” guy or girl.

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This feeling of “what if” is created … “what if your soul mate is a few swipes away?”. The “what if” feeling has created a dating culture that all too often leads to countless empty and meaningless interactions. The majority of matches on Tinder usually never lead to a message, or even a real life date, and even if you are messaging someone regularly, they often come to an abrupt stop for no apparent reason. The anonymity of online dating has made “ghosting” an accepted phenomenon. It is perhaps understandable, but nonetheless exhausting and dehumanizing.

Imagine meeting someone in a bar and exchanging words about your passions and interests only to have that person walk off in the middle of the conversation, never to return … annoying right? This would be the real life equivalent of ‘ghosting’. We have learned to treat each other as disposable commodities rather than real people with wants, needs and dreams. It’s sad, and it makes the future of dating for me look pretty bleak if you ask me …

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There’s An App for Everything. Except, Like, Actual Romance.

 

Growing Up is SCARY!

My thoughts on growing up!

let’s face it, there hasn’t been a time in your life where you haven’t wished to “not grow up”! When you think about it, growing up means getting a car, getting an adult job (whatever that is), moving out and having real life responsibilities. Even the word adulthood is pretty scary to me, so I call it ‘adulting’ to seem less daunting. I feel like I am experiencing this fear of adulthood now more than ever as I am close to graduating university. You could say that i’m in the ‘in-between stage’ of finishing school and facing the real world.

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To me the most terrifying thing of all is not knowing what’s ahead. Throughout childhood and young adult life, you have your life mapped out, but once university is over and you step into the real world where you have to work and make a living for yourself, you are afraid of not knowing what you will face along the way. Adults have a lot of responsibilities, that’s what makes adulthood so much fun (not really!). Going into adulthood, you have responsibilities like paying bills, buying a car, house etc. I have found that it is super hard to book appointments for myself! Growing up my parents did all that for me, so you can imagine the shock I got when one day my parents said I was on my own now when it came to the dentist, hairdresser, doctor, taxes etc. It was a huge wake up call that adulthood was commencing! I think having all these responsibilities has made me even more scared to grow up because it can be so stressful!

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I personally have gotten so used to having my parents, friends and family around me so much that when it is time for me to move on and start my own individual life, I think I will struggle immensely! Separation anxiety will become a real thing and although it scares me, it’s part of life. Change is scary! And let’s face it, sometimes we don’t like to admit it!

While the thought of growing up is scary, we cannot lose sight of ourselves and neglect our youth years. They have shaped us into the young adults we are today!

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Adele LIVE 2017: ANZ Stadium

Was lucky enough to witness the incomparable vocal stylings of Adele this past weekend in Sydney!

If you haven’t been living under a rock, you would know that Adele has been all over Australia for her most recent tour ‘Adele LIVE’. The Australian leg of the tour has been a whirlwind for Adele. Firstly receiving criticism for a poor choice on venue in Brisbane (The Gabba) and having to start and hour late during her first Sydney show due to public transport errors causing thousands of fans to be late to ANZ Stadium. All issues aside, Adele was simply INCREDIBLE.

This past weekend I hopped on a plane down to Sydney to visit one of my best friends and to attend the Adele show with her. I was not mentally prepared for the amazing show that was to come. I attended the 2nd Sydney show on the 11th of March with my beautiful friend Maria. We were joined by 90,000 other Adele fans. I’m not sure if I will ever get over how amazing her performance was. Right from the moment the stadium lights went off and I heard the first few bars of ‘Hello’ I had chills all over my body. I couldn’t believe I was witnessing someone I have loved for so many years sing right in front of me.

Adele stunned us all in a beautiful couture gown adorned in more than 10,000 Swarovski crystals and while it sure was pleasing to the eye, Adele made sure to tell us all how heavy and hot it was to wear! Even admitting that it probably was not the best choice of dress for the weather that she had encountered on this leg of her tour. Even admitting that before she got on stage she was “shitting herself” and drowning in sweat. It was revealed after the show that she was wheeled to the stage in a stage equipment box so that no one would see her enter. She rolled past an unsuspecting audience while sitting in this black box on wheels “with an iPad” to keep her entertained. This explains the sweat!

She sang a mixture of songs from both her new album and  also fan favourites from past albums. Highlights included hits that got people dancing like ‘I’ll Be Waiting’ and ‘Rumour Has It’ and old fan favourites like ‘Make You Feel My Love’, ‘Chasing Pavements’ and ‘Hometown Glory’. While a lot of beautiful singing took place, she broke the concert up with plenty of audience interaction. I was blown away with how funny she was. She brought me to tears from laughter at several points in the show! Here I was thinking that the majority of my tears would be a result of her powerful lyrics, but a lot came from the banter of the comedic songstress herself, Adele.

Adele would talk about what she had been up to in Australia as well as stories from her personal life. Her audience interaction blew me away, she even wrote a letter that was placed under the seat of one lucky fan, personally thanking them for coming to the concert with a picture of her writing the letter attached. She sang many hits, however my favourite was ‘Set Fire To The Rain’ as the whole crowd stood up and sung along as fireworks launched from the stage. She also launched shirts out of a t-shirt cannon with $20 attached to each so that the those who caught them could go get a drink compliments of Adele. Those interactions definitely made the sold out stadium show feel more intimate. She even sang Happy Birthday to a lucky fan! Adele finished the concert with ‘Someone Like You’ asking everyone to stand up and sing along. As the concert came to end, Adele walked down an aisle of the crowd on her way out thanking fans and even getting quite choked up as she left the floor, which was definitely a tear jerker for me showing how genuinely thankful she was for everyone’s support.

While there were flying t-shirts, confetti drops and fireworks, the thing that blew me away most was her voice. Her vocals are like no one else’s I have ever heard. Seeing everyone sing along to her music made me realise how many hearts she’s touched with her powerful songs and meaningful lyrics. This was the first time Adele has come to Australia and I definitely hope it’s not the last!