Are You Really Who You Portray Online?

Social media consumes us from time to time! Read my blog post about how it can make us portray ourselves in a false way sometimes!

Lets be honest, social media has dominated our lives, or at least we have let it dominate our lives at some point. We are all guilty of being addicted to social media. I even find myself opening Instagram and Snapchat more times than I can count in a single day. I often look at all the different Snapchat stories and Instagram feeds throughout my day, and most of the time I find myself in awe at how cute, hot and beautiful some people are and how perfect their lives are … or at least how they seem. I’m sure you have all heard the quote, “we only see peoples highlights, not their behind the scenes”. I think it definitely rings true to social media. We don’t want people to think we live lame lives, thus we often don’t document social outings unless they are at cool or trendy places or with the company of certain people, and we definitely do not post unflattering photos of ourselves (total social suicide). It’s like when your friend tags you in that one picture where they look perfect and you look like a foot … DELETE IT! Or when you go on a tinder date, and they look completely different to their photos? Slightly awkward right? Okay super awkward! This is a direct result of portraying a fabricated self on social media.We have all been there!

So the question we have to ask ourselves is: Are we really presenting who we are or are we presenting an idealistic version of ourselves? It seems that social media tends to create a false sense of self through the use of likes, fans, comments, posts, etc. For many of us social media users, we use it as an esteem booster. Don’t act like you don’t get super excited when your crush likes your selfie, or when your Facebook status gets a bulk amount of likes. This example can definitely support as to why so many people spend so much time on social media. It provides many individuals (including myself) a false sense of self or even worse, inflate their ego.

I can 100% admit to portraying a slightly idealistic version of myself on social media from time to time. I probably did it to feel good about myself at the time or to impress a certain person. At the time it seemed right, but in reality, I was just creating an unrealistic and inflated version of myself. Lately I have just been staying true to my real self and it has honestly made social media a lot more pleasurable for me. Now when I see those ‘perfect’ Instagram feeds and Snapchat stories, I remind myself not to compare myself to them because in reality, I am comparing myself to a perception of what this person thinks they may be, thus comparing myself to an ideal figure of someone else and not at all a true representation of them (if that makes any sense).

Let’s be honest here, I may not ever get to live the lifestyle some of these people do, but I have my own life and I can do whatever I want with it if I stay authentic and true to myself while following my goals and aspirations. I think everything about our ONLINE life should be reflective of our REAL life. This will further help us live a more genuine life.

Are you really who you portray online?

50 Things That Make Me Happy

Take a look at some of my blogs from this month!

I thought this would be a fun way to spread some happiness! It’s so amazing to step back and see how many different things make you happy. I must admit at first it was hard to list 50 things that make me happy, but once I really started thinking, so many things came to mind!

  1. My family
  2. My dog – she is ALWAYS happy to see me
  3. The smell of clean sheets
  4. Travel – love to travel as much as I can, if the time and funds are available
  5. Movies in bed on a rainy day
  6. Hanging out with my friends – I love just doing simple fun things with friends whether it be shopping, getting food together, going to the movies or just hanging at home
  7. The smell of freshly popped popcorn at the movies
  8. Hugs – nothing beats a warm hug from a friend or family member
  9. My twin sister – we are super close
  10. Organised closet – I HATE it when my clothes/contents of my closet aren’t organised
  11. Romantic comedies
  12. The feeling of a clean face
  13. Spending time alone
  14. Summer rain/storms
  15. Blogging
  16. Music – can’t function without it
  17. My Grandparents – I am so lucky to have the best grandparents in the world that I have so many cherished memories with them.
  18. My cousins – I basically grew up around my cousins I always look up to them being one of the youngest out of the bunch
  19. A clean bedroom
  20. Lady Gaga – she is my everything YASSS Gaga
  21. Roadtrips
  22. Walks on the beach around sunset
  23. Vogue magazine – I’m so in love with fashion
  24. Fashion – i’m not the most stylish person you’ll meet, but I do have an appreciation and love for all types of fashion labels whether it be high fashion or just regular clothing brands
  25. Guacamole
  26. Christmas – who isn’t happy at Christmas?
  27. Watching RuPaul’s Drag Race
  28. Moisturising
  29. Catching Taylor Swift songs
  30. My teddy bear
  31. Giving back – one of the most important things you can do
  32. knowing you’ve made a friend happy
  33. Animals – I just love all animals, except spiders
  34. Sleep – love a good nap
  35. My cousin’s sausage dog frank
  36. Going out for cocktails with friends
  37. Back rubs – even though I’m single and don’t have anyone to give them to me
  38. Disney – anything to do with Disney whether it be the movies or the theme parks
  39. Selfies
  40. Memes
  41. Espresso Martinis
  42. Spontaneous adventures
  43. Watching the Victoria’s Secret Fashion – they are so fabulous
  44. Shopping – need to learn some self control when it comes to this …
  45. Coffee
  46. Listening to music in the car
  47. Kris Jenner – obsessed
  48. My mum’s hugs
  49. Cuddles and kisses from my dog
  50. That feeling when you get in bed after a really long day

As overwhelming as life can get at times and you find yourself down or in a bad mood, we need to step back and think of all the positive in our lives. We have so many reasons to be happy! I challenge all of you to try and list 50 things that make YOU happy!

MFW: Versace A/W17

It’s clear that this collection embodies the strength of women and rallies for unity and sex appeal as well. Creative director Donatella Versace said she had been thinking about “the power of women” ahead of her Milan Fashion Week show, adding: “we need to take pride in all that we have achieved and unify in order to male a better future. It could all end tomorrow”. While she doesn’t mention US president Donald Trump it’s quite possible her latest collection is somewhat of a battle cry on behalf of women everywhere.

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There is evidence throughout the whole collection that Versace is “fighting for freedom” with the words ‘Love’ and ‘Positivity’ splayed across many of the sheer t-shirt and beanies that came down the runway. The collection gave off a street wear vibe, but also showcased sheer cocktail like dresses. A colour palette of citrus yellow and electric blue served to further harness this idea of strong powerful women. Speaking of strong powerful women, Victoria’s Secret Angel Behati Prinsloo (pictured below; right picture) made her runway return just 5 months after giving birth. Talk about girl power!

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While I love these models, it’s starting to feel like during Milan Fashion Week, it is a requirement that you have Kendall Jenner, Gigi and Bella Hadid walk your show. They are killing the game however to me, they are just tired. I don’t get as excited when I see them on a runway because it’s just the norm now. The industry needs to put some attention on fresh new baby supers like Dilone and Alanna Arrington.

Goal Setting

Goal setting is something I was introduced to a few years back by a close family friend! Ever since I attended one of his seminars on living passionately, I was so determined to start setting and achieving my goals. I think it’s so important to have goals. This quote says it all, “Goals are what take us forward in life; they are the oxygen to our dreams”. It is very important that you realise the significance and importance of goal-setting and apply this knowledge in your life. Goals give me long-term vision and short-term motivation. For me, goals help me organise my time and resources so that I can get the most out of my life.

I often get asked “how have you achieved/done so much in your short life?”. Now I’m not writing about this to brag about my accomplishments and experiences, but more to share with you guys on how I stay so focused on working towards and achieving my goals. And you’ll be surprised that it’s something so simple. Writing them down of course. Every goal I have is written down on paper. I write them down in a book called ‘101 Dreams Journal’ which I believe is available at Kikki K. But you most definitely do not need a fancy book to write all your goals down (it’s just more helpful in terms or organising your goals). I used to write goals on sticky notes and would disperse them all over my room. I also remember writing goals down in my school books. I would now love to share with you some of the goals that I always set for myself every year. These are the goals that never go away and always need to be worked towards:

1.) Be spontaneous – you can never be too spontaneous. I used to be so hesitant when it came to social outings or stepping outside my comfort zone, but now I just life such a spontaneous life and I think it’s had such a positive impact on my life thus far.

2.) Be kind – I try my best to be kind and see the good in everyone, which from time to time can be really hard when people say or do nasty things. We don’t know what everyone is battling in their lives which is why you have to try to be kind to everyone. “A smile can hide a thousand words”.

3.) Self love – one of the hardest things for me and I think a large majority of people is trying to develop self-love. I’ve slowly realised that if we don’t love ourselves, it will be even hard to find love or experience love from others. We won’t truly be able to love others until we love ourselves first.

Here are some reasons why I believe setting goals is so important!

  • Goals can help me take control of life. I find myself ‘sleepwalking’ through live sometimes. What I mean by that is that I’m working hard but not getting where I want to be. Goals can help you break out of that zombie mode.
  • Goals give me focus and push me in the right direction and helps me decide on what to focus my time and energy on.
  • Goals motivate me. There is no better feeling than ticking a goal off my list. My goals can help remind me of the things I love and move my focus away from the negatives in life.

I encourage all of you to start setting some goals, you’d be very surprised what you can achieve. You can start with something simple as a vision board or write them down like I suggested in this blog. The world is your oyster my friends. There are millions of things you can do and experience in life. There are endless possibilities of what you can accomplish.

MFW: Max Mara A/W17

Max Mara is an Italian fashion house. It markets up-market ready-to-wear clothing. Max Mara is known for elegant outerwear and fur. Warm winter coats were the heart and soul of this collection, with many of the models draped in them. A trend persistent throughout the collection was the knit trim on the coats making some of the models almost look like teddy bears walking down the runway. This show hit the mark when it came to accessories, with mittens to go with each look that showcased a coat, as well as knit trimmed tote bags.

What I admire about Max Mara, is that they stick to what they do best, which is extravagant outerwear and luxurious furs, allowing them to produce a solid collection season after season. Supermodel Natasha Poly opened the show, followed by a bevy of supers and baby supers, including 19 year old hijab-wearing model Halima Aden, a first for the fashion house. Below are some of the looks to show the different colour themes throughout the collection, as well as the full show!

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MFW: FENDI A/W17

For those of you who have been living under a rock hiding away from the fashion world … FENDI is an Italian luxury fashion house whose specialities include fur, ready-to-wear, leather goods, shoes, fragrances, eyewear, and accessories.

FENDI has to be one of my favourite fashion houses, mainly due to the fact that it is under the creative direction of the incomparable Karl Lagerfeld. For those of you who don’t know Karl Lagerfeld is a german fashion designer who not only is the creative director for FENDI but also Chanel (you may have heard of that one). Karl Lagerfeld is what they call a genius when it comes to fashion as he produces impactful collections that hit trends every season.

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The collection was nothing short of amazing, it reflected 18th century meets different french elements. The collection consisted of many luxurious materials such as cotton, wool, fur, velvet, silk, cashmere, leather and tulle (true FENDI style). Tailored jackets were worn with shirts, while short tops were paired with A-line skirts. Double breasted coats were worn with straight or pleated skirts. Cut-out detail mini dresses and Long dresses were also prevalent throughout the collection. I REALLY loved the colours within the collection, bold red and blue as well as brown, black, white and beige. Accessories included gorgeous red leather boots and opulent snake skin handbags

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Karl made sure that this collection would be showcased by none other than some of the industry’s top models such as Dilone, Kendall Jenner and the Hadid sisters as well as Victoria’s Secret stunners Stella Maxwell, Romee Strijd and Grace Elizabeth. Below are some of my favourite looks! You can watch the entire show below as well!

MFW: Alberta Ferretti A/W17

 

Alberta Ferretti is an Italian designer and dressmaker. Ferretti is known for her designs featuring twisting, tucking, and draping techniquesAlberta Ferretti is a designer who has always specialised in the femininity of fashion with lots of lace, tulle and embroideries. Her gowns belong on the Hollywood red carpets, and thats exactly where you will find them this awards season.

When looking at the majority of this A/W collection, its very dark and bold. The collection itself ascended from dark to light to bold colours then back to dark again in terms of the looks. The show featured billowing chiffon dresses, embroidered velvets and hooded capes. The show felt like a luxurious masquerade ball with masks incorporated into some of the looks. Gigi Hadid opened the show, followed by a bevy of top models. A stunning collection as always from Ferretti. You can see all the looks in the full show below!