CFDA Awards 2017 – Lookbook

Monday night’s celebration of artistic talent reminded everyone — beyond the designers, editors, stylist, and more — that what we wear (and the people who make it) holds weight in all aspects of our lives. Well-dressed celebs were out in full force as the fashion industry handed out its top honours in New York.

Here’s what stood out to me on the red carpet, and what I believe, are best dressed:

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Pictured left to right: Bella Hadid (Off White), Amber Valletta (Oscar De La Renta) Hayley Baldwin (Cushnie et Ochs)

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Constance Jablonski (Tory Burch), Joan Smalls (Michael Kors), Hilary Rhoda (Marchesa)

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Gigi Hadid (The Row), Jac Jagaciak (Kobi Halperin), Karlie Kloss (Diane von Furstenberg)

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Elsa Hosk (Philosophy di Lorenzo Serafini), Heidi Klum (Zac Posen), Olivia Munn (Tanya Taylor)

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Martha Hunt (Milly), Imaan Hammam (Adam Selman), Sara Sampaio (J. Mendel)

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Lily Aldridge (Jason Wu), HAIM (Diane Von Furstenburg), Ashley Benson (Kate Spade)

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Nicole Kidman (Oscar de la Renta), Alek Wek (Balenciaga), Adwoa Aboah (Coach)

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Ellie Kemper (Kate Spade), Brit Marling (Sies Marjan), Olivia Palmero (Banana Republic)

Images courtesy of Elle.com

Why I (And Most Gay Men) Are Single!

(Little disclaimer to all the gays out there, this doesn’t apply to everyone! This is just what I personally have experienced! )

Let me explain,

Mine and every other gay man’s pool of potential partners is A LOT smaller than those of straight people! A lot of straight people are single too, there’s just A LOT more options for straight people to get with other straight people. So talking numbers, the chances of meeting ‘Mr. Right’ are pretty slim.

What I’ve noticed is a lot of gay men are attracted to attractiveness rather than personality and deeper values. We hate to admit it but it’s true. I also noticed it’s common that gay men are not monogamous. There are a lot of gay men who claim to want monogamy, but they can’t even behave monogamously themselves. Bottom line is, if you want monogamy, you have to be monogamous and if you really love someone, being faithful is effortless.

Too many gay men often seek guys who fit their idea of a perfect partner: perfect job, perfect look, perfect friends. STOP RIGHT THERE! You want a guy who loves you for your individual nature, and who might even clash with some aspects of your life, its natural.

Most gay men are alone because they have narrow standards and try to chase after ideas of a perfect man modelled in today’s popular culture. Let’s be honest, the majority of gay men depicted in television shows or on TV in general are pretty good looking and it’s become the standard that every gay man seeks. Personality is then completely overlooked. 

Personally, the experience of growing up gay in a straight world is hard. I often experienced rejection in many ways by the time I became an adult. Whether it was being excluded at school or being rejected by someone I had a crush on. I  have developed defences against my fear of rejection, and those are what keeping me from opening up to other’s.

Let’s be frank. Gay men are and will continue to be extremely superficial and fussy. Which is why I am single!
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Finding Your Personal Style

I was never really into fashion growing up, but as time went on I started to learn that your style quite easily becomes an identity and a perfect means for you to express yourself. I myself am still trying to find my personal style, for me and it’s mainly trial and error. I will see something I love online, then I will go try it on in store and I either LOVE it or HATE it (or I can’t afford it). That’s just the fun of fashion, finding things that work for you and ruling out those pieces that don’t. Finding and refining your personal style can be a real struggle. We’ve all been there at multiple times, as we look into our closet full of clothes and need something, yet we cannot seem to find something to wear. The STRUGGLE is REAL right?

So why is style important? Let me tell you! The impact of personal style goes far beyond making a good first impression; great style is also about approaching each day with confidence, and the ability to feel FAB in what you are wearing. Believe it or not, the right wardrobe can make a difference in that department. I’m going to share with you a few tips on how to get started in the ‘Personal Style’ department! You’re probably asking yourself “Why take fashion advice from Samuel, he is not a designer/celebrity stylist!” This is all true but I definitely I think I have the base knowledge to help someone kickstart their personal style, TRUST in ME!!!

Firstly, It’s important to get some inspiration!georgia-fowler-fashion-week-style-3.jpgGet out those VOGUE magazines, open up Instagram, look at what your favourite bloggers and celebrities are wearing. Create a vision board of all the things that you like and which you feel you identify with most! This is a great way to create a foundation for your personal style! But make sure you do your research and even try things on in person before making any big purchases, clothing pieces can vary in appearance!

Next, It’s important that clean up and clean out!organize.jpgThe best way to do this is to take a good, long look at your closet and the items of clothing you already own, and by long look I mean a day! Really think about it! You do not want to regret tossing that nice jacket or vintage jeans! Toss what you haven’t worn in the last year , but also think how these old pieces can be incorporated into your new-found personal style. Then you can start fresh and begin to rebuild and refine your wardrobe with a style that truly reflects where you are in your current life/career/situation.

We must shop SMARTER not HARDER!best-street-style-at-paris-fashion-week-springsummer-2014-17.jpgOne of the things I have recently learnt is that you don’t need astronomical amounts of money to have good style. Sure money helps, but it’s not a requirement. I was under the impression that you had to buy all the top designer brands! BUT NO! Experiment with the latest fashion trends the smart way by hunting for deals. I only ever splurge on staple pieces like leather goods, a great bag, a nice coat, etc. If you pay close attention to detail to the quality of clothing pieces you can tell which cheap clothing pieces will last and which pieces will not. Some of the cheapest clothing items I own have lasted years for!

When looking at your personal style, and what you want it be, it’s important to take your lifestyle and goals into consideration. The perfect wardrobe should not only represent your vision and creativity, but also be tailored to your lifestyle. Also, HAVE CONFIDENCE! If you have it, you can make anything look good! Finally, Trust yourself! Trust your gut, because something that makes you feel confident and fabulous will NEVER go out of style.

Growing Up is SCARY!

My thoughts on growing up!

let’s face it, there hasn’t been a time in your life where you haven’t wished to “not grow up”! When you think about it, growing up means getting a car, getting an adult job (whatever that is), moving out and having real life responsibilities. Even the word adulthood is pretty scary to me, so I call it ‘adulting’ to seem less daunting. I feel like I am experiencing this fear of adulthood now more than ever as I am close to graduating university. You could say that i’m in the ‘in-between stage’ of finishing school and facing the real world.

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To me the most terrifying thing of all is not knowing what’s ahead. Throughout childhood and young adult life, you have your life mapped out, but once university is over and you step into the real world where you have to work and make a living for yourself, you are afraid of not knowing what you will face along the way. Adults have a lot of responsibilities, that’s what makes adulthood so much fun (not really!). Going into adulthood, you have responsibilities like paying bills, buying a car, house etc. I have found that it is super hard to book appointments for myself! Growing up my parents did all that for me, so you can imagine the shock I got when one day my parents said I was on my own now when it came to the dentist, hairdresser, doctor, taxes etc. It was a huge wake up call that adulthood was commencing! I think having all these responsibilities has made me even more scared to grow up because it can be so stressful!

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I personally have gotten so used to having my parents, friends and family around me so much that when it is time for me to move on and start my own individual life, I think I will struggle immensely! Separation anxiety will become a real thing and although it scares me, it’s part of life. Change is scary! And let’s face it, sometimes we don’t like to admit it!

While the thought of growing up is scary, we cannot lose sight of ourselves and neglect our youth years. They have shaped us into the young adults we are today!

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