Is Instagram Ruining Our Lives?

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Haven’t posted for a while, and I was scraping my brain trying to figure out something I can write about. I don’t know if it is because I am busy, life is changing, or if I’m simply feeling uninspired. After thinking and debating, there is something I want to address: Instagram … it’s VERY deceiving. For some reason I just can’t seem to get that through my head. Don’t get me wrong I LOVE Instagram, but it’s nothing but A LOT of smoke and mirrors and nothing is what it seems.

As young adults we are all on a continuous journey to find and love ourselves. Which is never going to happen if we keep trying to be a filtered standard of ourselves that isn’t even real! Sounds like some super messed up and unachievable shit. What does that say about what we think of ourselves and our goals in the first place? How can we achieve them when we don’t feel good enough to be ourselves, let alone to even want to be ourselves.

Here’s the harsh truth are you ready to hear it?

1.) Let’s be honest most of us are looking for validation.

2.) #BodyGoals – We see that hashtag almost every day on our Instagram timeline. Most likely, there will be a skinny pretty girl or boy in the picture with a flat stomach/abs. We’ve all seen it, and we’ve all wanted to be them at some point in our lives (Do not deny it, you know it’s true). So, are they really our body goals or is it just a silly fantasy that is bringing down our self-confidence? I don’t know about you, but social media has quickly destroyed my self-confidence.

3.) There’s this pressure to be “camera ready” at any given time of day.

4.) Instagram is the first thing I look at in the morning and the last thing I look at when I go to bed – this is borderline an addiction.

What have I learnt from Instagram? Most girls want to be skinny, and guys want to look ripped, and if you don’t look like that, then you’re considered unattractive … harsh reality right? But let me break it down for you once more!

1.) NO ONE wakes up with perfect hair and skin. NO ONE eats on a terrace with a beautiful mountain view every morning. NO ONE has a perfect relationship full of gifts, hand holding, and adventures.

2.) Everyone wakes up with a zit the size of a mountain on their forehead every once in a while (guilty). Everyone spends a day in bed eating junk food and binge watching Netflix (guilty). Everyone argues with their significant other (not guilty #singleAF). Everyone has bad days, they just don’t post it on social media!!!

Quite frankly, Instagram is transforming us literally into our own worst critics. Believe it or not if you want. Rant over!

 

Staying Motivated When Things Aren’t Going Your Way

Trying to stay motivated when things aren’t going quite the way you planned is quite difficult! Let me re-phrase that, it’s super fucking hard. Problems and heartaches in life are inevitable, It’s natural to get overwhelmed by our struggles and when things aren’t going our way, most of us, me included, have a tendency to complain. In my experience complaining rarely does much to improve the situation and can often make matters worse. You know what it’s like, it’s so tiresome to provide support to someone who shares their problems with you constantly. So I try not to be that person …  A way to combat this feeling is to find the strength to stay positive. I always try to laugh even when it’s hard to. I spend time with other people as much as I can and refrain myself from isolation. I like to give myself space and time to re-energize (I can’t stress how important this is for me).

A way I’ve been trying to combat all this feeling of hopelessness is looking back on my life and some of the things I’ve done and achieved so far and dwell on the good things in my life at this moment and list a good 5 things out. Sounds silly, but I read it actually makes you so much more grateful for the life you have had so far.

  1. I have a wonderful family, I believe I had the best upbringing. My parents are so loving and supportive of me and everything I’ve ever done. Im very close with all my relatives and they give me constant love and support.
  2. I had the opportunity to work for one of the largest most successful companies in the world for 6 months overseas. It resulted in many life lessons, personal growth and life long friendships
  3. I have had the opportunity to travel and see lots of amazing places
  4. I got to live in the Texas for 6 years with my family and attend school there
  5. I have wonderful friends, close or distant, I love them all

Every struggle we encounter is a step forward; it’s all part of life’s journey, giving us the opportunity to learn about ourselves. The way in which we are able to handle what life throws at us, defines our future and who we will become.

 

An Effort To Be Happier!

The key to being happier starts by being good to yourself. Sounds pretty self-evident right? But too often we skip this very crucial step. I myself skip it many a time! I often try to make myself happy by chasing ever-higher goals or holding myself to ever-greater standards of perfection (as seen on Instagram lol).

I go about my life day to day and I noticed that there was once crucial thing missing … and it was indeed happiness. I have been so caught up in my working schedule and other petty things like housework and catching up on Netflix TV shows that I totally forgot to be happy. I was in zombie mode that’s for sure, I was sad, and just content really … I needed a push to get me back on track to happiness.

I’ve read that the happiest people go out of their way to treat themselves right and they do something nice for themselves each day. They set appropriate boundaries and take care of themselves by saying no to things when they need to. This is something I have been trying to do lately and it has really turned things around for me. I indulge in a nice bath and glass of wine once a week now as nice way to unwind after a stressful shift at work. On my days off, I try to something fun and spontaneous as a way to forget about whatever may be stressing me out at the current moment in time. I buy myself nice things as a reward for my hard work. I continue to design and study marketing to help get me closer to my dream of having a clothing line. Keeping this commitment will motivate me to take better care of myself and go after my dreams. It’s worth a shot anyway right?

I challenge everyone this coming month to do something for yourself each day big or small to remind you on a daily basis to treat yourself with the loving kindness you deserve! Don’t get too caught up in the day to day routine! Take time to stop and breathe, prioritise your health and listen to yourself. Be spontaneous! Go to the beach. Go have a nice coffee. Have some retail therapy. Get creative!

 

Soo Joo Park

This beauty hardly needs an introduction. She has dominated the catwalks, and appeared in every major magazine from ELLE to W Magazine and of course, Vogue. The fashion spotlight has certainly had its’ focus on Soo Joo Park.

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Editorial | Images Courtesy of VOGUE.com

Soo Joo Park (28) is a well-known model who made her modelling debut back in 2013. Soo Joo was born in Seoul, South Korea, and grew up there until she was 10. Her family then moved to California. Interestingly, modelling was an accidental career for Park. She studied architecture and shortly after graduating, was scouted to start modelling. Living in San Francisco, she had a full-time job doing graphic design for a start-up web company. One fateful weekend, she was shopping in a vintage store and was discovered, being asked if she was interested in modelling, her answer: sure, why not?

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Soo Joo’s career took off after she met renowned stylist Carine Roitfeld and shot her for her CR Fashion Book. She was then recommended to designers among the likes of Karl Lagerfeld and Tom Ford. After her encounter with Lagerfeld, it wasn’t long before she was walking the Chanel Spring 2013 Haute Couture show at the Grand Palais in Paris. It proved to be the turning point in her career as she walked for everyone from Fendi to Lanvin since.

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Chanel Haute Couture Spring 2013 Show | Grand Palais, Paris

In an interview, Park discussed how she doesn’t see herself as an Asian model and that part of the reason she bleached her hair was so that wouldn’t be type-casted as an Asian model by the industry or designers. She is still an unmistakeable presence in the fashion industry and will continue to be with her eclectic personality. Soo Joo has a cool, 80’s, rebellious style and a VERY addictive Instagram feed! You can follow her via her social media below! 

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Devon Windsor

Devon Windsor is probably one of the most fun models to follow on social media! Her Snapchat and Instagram stories are INCREDIBLE as she shows her uncensored and fast-paced lifestyle to followers! Devon (24) hails from St. Louis, Missouri. Devon was discovered by a local photographer in St. Louis while she was attending a bar-mitzvah. She launched her career in the 2014 spring season shows, after appearing in the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show previously in 2013. Devon appeared in over 20 international collections including Christian Dior and Prada. Devon is represented by IMG Worldwide and is 5’11”.

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Her first big show was for Prada in September 2013. During her fittings, her hair was dyed bleach blonde. She liked it and decided to keep it that way, which has become her signature look. The same year, she debuted in the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show and advertised for American fashion house Moschino. Throughout her career she has walked for a bevy of top designers including Alexander McQueen, Anna Sui, Bottega Veneta, Balmain, Calvin Klein, Carolina Herrera, Chanel, Dior, H&M, Herve Leger, Max Mara, Michael Kors, Jeremy Scott, Oscar De La Renta, Tommy Hilfiger and Tom Ford, JUST TO NAME A FEW.

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Devon has appeared in numerous Victoria’s Secret Fashion Shows. She debuted in 2013 and has become a regular in the show each year since then! In 2015, Devon secured a ‘Fit Model’ position with the brand making her the reference model for the designers and artisans as they create the looks for the show. As a fit model, Devon has all the outfits constructed on her body, and they are later made custom couture to whichever model they assign the look too! So basically she gets to try on every look for each show! Dream job am I right?

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When Devon isn’t modelling, she is an amateur chef! If you follow her snapchat you’ll quickly learn that this girl can EAT! She is always indulging in different cuisines at top notch restaurants all around the world! Devon loves to cook and bake in her spare time! She even competed on MasterChef against fellow super model Gigi Hadid! #SuperModelBattle

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Follow Devon Windsor on her Social Media:

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Finding Your Personal Style

I was never really into fashion growing up, but as time went on I started to learn that your style quite easily becomes an identity and a perfect means for you to express yourself. I myself am still trying to find my personal style, for me and it’s mainly trial and error. I will see something I love online, then I will go try it on in store and I either LOVE it or HATE it (or I can’t afford it). That’s just the fun of fashion, finding things that work for you and ruling out those pieces that don’t. Finding and refining your personal style can be a real struggle. We’ve all been there at multiple times, as we look into our closet full of clothes and need something, yet we cannot seem to find something to wear. The STRUGGLE is REAL right?

So why is style important? Let me tell you! The impact of personal style goes far beyond making a good first impression; great style is also about approaching each day with confidence, and the ability to feel FAB in what you are wearing. Believe it or not, the right wardrobe can make a difference in that department. I’m going to share with you a few tips on how to get started in the ‘Personal Style’ department! You’re probably asking yourself “Why take fashion advice from Samuel, he is not a designer/celebrity stylist!” This is all true but I definitely I think I have the base knowledge to help someone kickstart their personal style, TRUST in ME!!!

Firstly, It’s important to get some inspiration!georgia-fowler-fashion-week-style-3.jpgGet out those VOGUE magazines, open up Instagram, look at what your favourite bloggers and celebrities are wearing. Create a vision board of all the things that you like and which you feel you identify with most! This is a great way to create a foundation for your personal style! But make sure you do your research and even try things on in person before making any big purchases, clothing pieces can vary in appearance!

Next, It’s important that clean up and clean out!organize.jpgThe best way to do this is to take a good, long look at your closet and the items of clothing you already own, and by long look I mean a day! Really think about it! You do not want to regret tossing that nice jacket or vintage jeans! Toss what you haven’t worn in the last year , but also think how these old pieces can be incorporated into your new-found personal style. Then you can start fresh and begin to rebuild and refine your wardrobe with a style that truly reflects where you are in your current life/career/situation.

We must shop SMARTER not HARDER!best-street-style-at-paris-fashion-week-springsummer-2014-17.jpgOne of the things I have recently learnt is that you don’t need astronomical amounts of money to have good style. Sure money helps, but it’s not a requirement. I was under the impression that you had to buy all the top designer brands! BUT NO! Experiment with the latest fashion trends the smart way by hunting for deals. I only ever splurge on staple pieces like leather goods, a great bag, a nice coat, etc. If you pay close attention to detail to the quality of clothing pieces you can tell which cheap clothing pieces will last and which pieces will not. Some of the cheapest clothing items I own have lasted years for!

When looking at your personal style, and what you want it be, it’s important to take your lifestyle and goals into consideration. The perfect wardrobe should not only represent your vision and creativity, but also be tailored to your lifestyle. Also, HAVE CONFIDENCE! If you have it, you can make anything look good! Finally, Trust yourself! Trust your gut, because something that makes you feel confident and fabulous will NEVER go out of style.